Reference No. 1 from Ryan
I didn’t think that two days spent with an old lady would make a difference in my life. I was wrong. First of all, the “old lady” became “an elder” and “the elder” turned out to be Mrs. C., who then became my friend.
It all began with Eden Apprentice Training and learning to look at elders in a whole new light. They’re people just like kids, only with a few more stories to tell.
Empowerment. It was a word that I didn’t know the meaning of until coming to Columbus and the Eden International Conference. I looked up the word during that trip. It means to inspire somebody with confidence: to give somebody a sense of confidence or self-esteem. Adults are not the only people who can be empowered, kids and elders can be too. With education and understanding, we can spread the word about the worth and wisdom of our elders. We were given the tools to spread the word. We were empowered.
Mrs. C. and I have kept in touch by email for almost a year now. We have talked about her trips, her family, her days at her retirement community and her life, which seems very busy. We have also talked about my grades and she has given me some good advice about how to keep them up. See below:
Dear Ryan
Sorry you are not a fan of math - it was one of my favorites so think of it as a way of always being one step ahead of your pocketbook or billfold in your case - the more you know math - the more you will save as someone won't tell you that you are getting the right change or you can also multiply or divide faster than they can and you will always get your fair share - if you learn it well one day at a time, you will be fine and get far!!!
Now the next question!!!
Sincerely,
Mrs Curtis
We’ve also talked about baseball and life in general. I never thought that I would have a friend in Columbus, OH. Much less one who was an elder and who has so much to give. I never thought someone like Mrs. C. could make such a difference in my life. She does. I hope I have made a difference in her life too.
Ryan
Charlottesville, Virginia
Reference No. 2 from Dillon
The training I received greatly impacted the way I view our elders. It gave me a greater respect for them and really made me think about how they spend their daily lives. I’ve always tried to show great respect and admiration to the elderly but before I took this course I never really felt like I understood how they feel while they are cooped up in a retirement or nursing home. I learned of the three plagues loneliness, boredom, and helplessness. Understanding these and the effects they had on our elders really changed the way I looked on their lives. I’ve learned how much they appreciate it when you just take the time to sit and talk to them, and how fun it can be to hear about their lives and their experiences as a kid.
I think it has greatly changed my perception of the elderly. Through this course I have learned to look at our elders not just as grumpy old people who yell at us to get off their lawn and only want to eat tapioca, but as wise and friendly people who just want you to be there with them and to listen to their stories.
From this course I have learned valuable lessons that I have shared with my peers at school. I recently went on a mission trip to St. Lucia a small island in the West Indies. On our mission trip we were at a home for elders. The training I received helped me to understand and bond with the elders, and to really connect to them as individuals and friends. I don’t think I would have had the same experience with them if I hadn’t taken this course. I would have missed out on all the fun and exciting time we had with them while we were there. I feel this training could really change the way kids see the elderly in their daily lives and even in their own families. I’m very glad I had the opportunity to take this course and would take it again in a heartbeat.
Dillon
Grand Island NE
An Eden Alternative Success Story – description of a transformed nursing home:
One of our Eden Registered Homes is the Levindale Hebrew Geriatric Center. As they boast on their website “The Eden Alternative is thriving at Levindale. We're proud to say that we became the first registered Eden Alternative facility in Maryland in 2000.” At Levindale, they built two playgrounds and a gazebo area, which helps foster family and intergenerational interaction. Dogs, cats, and birds live at Levindale. Taking care of pets gives residents a sense of purpose, and they are a wonderful source of companionship. They also focus on care for plants, gardens and flowers. A horticultural therapist leads a gardening club and one-on-one sessions. Levindale even built a greenhouse to further enhance the horticultural activities. Residents love the opportunity to plant flowers, vegetables (they have wheelchair-accessible gardens), and even trees on the grounds of Levindale. Participants also create flower arrangements for sicker patients/residents and make such things as potpourri and pressed flower bookmarks.
They’ve also developed “kibbutz” groups. Part of the Eden Alternative mission is to create a family atmosphere, where small groups are formed, which they call "kibbutzim". These groups meet regularly so members can become better acquainted and help each other with the challenges of daily living. Each kibbutz member votes on whether to bring a pet into their neighborhood (unit). If they decide to adopt an animal, then they also all vote on the kind of pet. Kibbutz leaders conduct the meetings, where issues like problem solving and team building are discussed.